A Fresh Start


So the end of 2016 is fast approaching. I must admit, this has been the most difficult year for me and my family. Most of you do not know this but I have been through so much since September 2015. It started when my mother got into a terrible accident on Ou Kaapse Weg, colliding with a truck. She almost lost her life on that mountain, we (me and my sisters) almost lost the most important person in our lives. She took many months to recover. She could not walk due to her injury, and having a father who works away left me to pick up where my Mom left off.

The following month, October 2015, we received a call early hours of the morning because my Grandpa had gotten so sick during the night. The next day he passed on. To be completely honest with you, my Grandpa was one of the very few people who made me feel so at ease each time I was in his company. I could sit with him for hours barely saying a word and it would make me feel so content …and then I lost that.

During my Mom’s few months of recovery I had to cook, clean, make lunch for my sisters, do the shopping, take my sister to school with public transport etc. There was so many things I had to do and thankfully I was on my study break which allowed me to be there for my family. Not having a car was extremely difficult and having to carry heavy packets of groceries was no joke. This carried on for months until my mother got a new vehicle in March 2016. This drained me both physically and emotionally. I thought I was going to go crazy because suddenly I was running a whole household with little to no help. Eventually some family members came forward as well as my boyfriend who helped us out a lot and to which I am truly grateful for.

January came and as it was a new year we thought perhaps it would be a better year for us, you know, a clean slate. I guess I spoke too soon. One day in January our family fell apart. I do not want to go into detail but let me just tell you that my parents are unfortunately splitting up and our family has been going through a tragic divorce since January 2015 and it has not ended yet. A happy family is the one thing that can get us through this wicked life and I lost that too.

Things have not gotten better, and most days I feel hopeless and there are many times where I want to give up but I don’t because the thing is, this whole experience might have caused extreme pain and heartache but on the bright side it has made me more optimistic. Going through all of this has also greatly humbled me because I was taken out of my comfort zone and for a short period I had to live a life that humdreds of thoudsands of South Africans have to go through day in and day out. I cannot say that 2016 was a bad year just because I went through a few awful experiences – thankfully I still have a lot to be grateful for such as my family, my boyfriend, friends,and all the other special people in my life who all play a part in making life so much better. So I guess what I’m trying to say is, we all have a story to tell. I am still trying to deal with everything which is not the easiest thing to do especially when people are not kind and understanding. I hope that next year will be a better year for me and my family. 2016 has made us so much stronger we can only hope for the best.


A big thank you for all the love and support from my family, boyfriend, friends, and followers. Without you guys things would not be the same. So here’s to 2017, a fresh start for me and for all of us!

4 Responses
  • Alex
    January 2, 2017

    Keep pushing through Chelsea! It’s not easy, but there’s always light at the end of the tunnel..props to you for keeping it together

    • chelsea@plainblackluxurae.co.za
      January 11, 2017

      Thank you Alex x

  • Aneeq
    February 1, 2017

    You have inspired so many people during your journey . You need to keep on pushing and you will see the rewards soon . You should be extremely proud of yourself , you guys fought through the hardest time and even though things ain’t the same . You personally know what you want in life . Keep on being the amazing young , influential women you are . ❤️

    • chelsea@plainblackluxurae.co.za
      February 13, 2017

      Thanks babe, thanks for always reminding me to keep pushing!

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